Is tough love parenting the answer, find out in this article


Troubled teenagers. They seem angry with no reason, skip their classes, change their circle of friends and have very unhealthy habits. Is tough love parenting the answer? Well... this is a question you must answer yourself.

But first what is tough love parenting to begin with? Lately there is a trend to treat these problems in a more articulate and tough fashion. Boot camps, wilderness camps, you name it.

I am not trying to either promote tough love parenting nor to present it in a bad light. I'm simply trying to show you what this choice implies. You are probably frustrated and on the verge of collapsing. If you want your kid to come back to his senses, you must be the first one to get back the grip.

What I'll ask you next should at least put the whole situation in a new perspective. Has your kid suffered a trauma recently? Did your kid begin to have a very erratic behavior? Did the circle of friends in which your child resides undergo recent major changes? Did the school situation seen a very nasty downside? If you answered Yes to the first question than your kid doesn't need tough love parenting, but some psychological therapy. If you answered the NO to the first questions, but YES to the last three this choice should indeed be considered.

Once you have decided the faith of your child it is very important that you stick to it. Also you should never use boot camps, they rarely work, alternatives such as the wilderness camps are a much better choice. Your kid doesn't need an army style, what he needs is raw, simple life, where choices matter and thus will teach him some responsibility.

Also if you choose a tough love parenting approach, you should make sure that the conditions there are humane, this is especially important with camps abroad. Be aware of who is running them, what the local legislation says (the US legislation won't apply anymore) and that they had a reasonable success rate.

Be aware that once you start a tough love parenting course some nasty things will happen. You will miss your son or your daughter and the price tag is anything but cheap. Some programs ask for as much as 3.000 dollars a day. Put the physical and the mental health of your child on the top of the priorities. You don't need an obedient child, you need a healthy child.

Bottom line is that once you choose tough love parenting make sure that you stick to it and that you take all the precautions you can.